So there I was visibly pregnant, waddling around a baby store with my husband in tow. The time had come to start compiling a list of what we both wanted and needed for our little one and his or her nursery. As I flipped through the crib mattresses like pages of a very over-sized book, I examine each label carefully. This was our baby. He or she was going to have the absolute best. I was scrupulous with each detail, making notes to research everything.
It was then that I noticed a label on a mattress “organic.” Immediately, I figured it was a baby must-have. Our baby couldn’t sleep on some less-than-great bedding if specialty items were available.
As we made our way to the diapers, I looked at my husband, “These ones!” I beamed. “Alana,” my husband said somewhat disapprovingly, “All you are doing is choosing the most expensive ones.” My heart sank. They
My heart sank. They
They had to be the most expensive for a reason right? He continued, “I mean have you ever had or known someone who’s had an organic mattress before? And do you have any idea why these diapers are any better than these cheaper ones?”
Just to further prove his point, he grabbed a store associate to inquire about the difference between the two diaper brands. Turns out, my hubby was right. There was no difference aside branding.
I wasn’t thinking. For the first time in my adult life, I was emotionally going through a store making not-so-wise choices. After having my ‘aha’ moment in the store coupled with experience of having my first, I became a whole lot more prudent.
What are considered baby must-haves will certainly vary from family to family and from budget to budget. What works is dependent on so many different variables. But based on my own experience having two babies under two, research, and what other friends have agreed on, here are my best suggestions on baby must-haves. I have included whether it’s worth it to buy new or not too!
Practical Baby Must-Haves on a Budget
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I highly recommend doing your own research before making a purchase. Government websites, consumer reports, and online reviews are all good resources. Then, start searching on Craigslist. I got our bassinet for 30% less than it was being sold online and it had never been used (the parents had chosen to co-sleep).
We did thorough research on our car seat and decided to buy brand new. Spend money on a good stroller. If you buy second-hand, you can also get all of the accessories included for a couple hundred dollars less than in stores. I highly recommend jogging strollers because they turn on a dime, are light weight, and handle well on all terrain. I am highly partial to BOB. Some like having an umbrella stroller in their car to have in a pinch, and a good quality one for the longer excursions.
See if you can borrow someone’s baby swing and/ or bouncy seat. Our daughter out grew out of the swing we borrowed before she was four months. And, they retail for over $100 brand new. We got a bouncy seat on sale for $25. Neither items were ones we used for a long duration of time.
Changing pad, no changing table
Once they start rolling (around four months), you’ll change them on the floor. We bought a change pad at Walmart. I recommend foregoing the cover for the change pad; the pad itself should be water resistant and therefore you can wipe/ clean/ disinfect as needed. Just put it on top of baby’s dresser until you no longer need it.
Few newborn clothes. An ample number size 3 month PJs and onesies
We’ve all heard about kids growing “in the blink of an eye”. The expression couldn’t be truer for the infant stage. Some “newborn” sizes are meant for up to 7 lbs., while others extend to 10 lbs. Either way, with the average Canadian baby weighing in at 7.5 lbs (3400 g), some outfits may only fit once. For the most part, we rolled the sleeves3-monthonth sleepers.
The reason I suggest onesies and sleepers, especially in the first few weeks, is that most new moms are just getting their bearings and starting to get to know their little one. Jammies are easy, cover the baby up perfectly, and probably match what you’re in anyways! Onesies are great underneath pjs in colder months (they also help contain blow-outs, if and when, they happen). If baby is born in summer, they are great as is!
I say get ample onesies and pjs because no matter how often you are doing laundry, whatever supply you do have will be puked on, peed on, and leaked on faster than you likely thought possible.
A good number of receiving blankets
These are key for burping and quickly wiping up those imaginable and unimaginable mishaps outlined above!
Second-hand, quality breast pump
Of course, this is only if you plan on breastfeeding. A good breast pump goes a long way. It helps if you end up with a clogged duct, or worse still, mastitis. Furthermore, if you’d like to introduce a bottle, mix milk into pablum, or increase your milk supply, you will be relieved you have the pump. When I asked roughly a dozen momma friends what they use themselves, all of them but one said go for electric.
The idea of second-hand may have you squeamish. When I had both a public health nurse and a nurse at prenatal suggest renting, I realized it wasn’t uncommon. As it turns out, every piece that needs to be sterilized can be. Renting one adds up quickly. I bought my Medela Swing for $50 on Craigslist (regularly $140 retail).
Use throw pillows instead of a nursing pillow
This way you can use more/ less pillows to get the desired height based on your position.
New/used, good quality baby carrier
You’ll likely use it A LOT. I recommend ensuring there is a waist strap to alleviate pressure on your lower back. We had the original Bjorn lent to us, and though I loved the structure of the carrier, I needed something with more support. Fortunately, we got a new one as a gift. After asking many mommy friends, and casually surveying moms at a “Baby and Me” yoga class, the two brands that were consistently recommended were Baby Bjorn (at least one model comes with a waist strap), and Ergo Baby. If you are interested in some of the reported benefits of regularly using a carrier, check this out!
Finally, the parenting book I had recommended to me frequently, and incidentally resonated with me the most was the series by Tracey Hogg called the Baby Whisperer.