Want to discipline your child using positive parenting strategies? Check out there 5 alternatives to timeouts below!
I remember when I came across that first website. I had poured over it because it was laden with so many rich, positive parenting strategies. As I combed through each assertion nodding, I took note of what I would do as my then one-year-old and newborn grew older.
Then I saw it.
It read something along the lines of, “There is no research that supports the effectiveness of timeouts.”
Huh? I thought.
I had taken Developmental Psych; I had watched countless reality TV shows about parenting. Okay, maybe the latter isn’t the best resource out there. But still, I had no clue timeouts were a no-no.
I did a little more reading and found other resources confirming my first. So I parented on, sans timeouts. The issue? Without this tactic in my arsenal, I eventually felt a bit handcuffed.
It took a bit of brainstorming, but I now have some pretty solid alternatives to timeouts that still are disciplinary.
Before enacting them, I really recommend figuring out the family rules. The essence of ours is as follows: gentle touches, use your words, do good listening, and use a nice voice. When these rules are broken, my first course of action is to acknowledge what has happened and give a warning. For instance, “Either you use nice words or you will lose a sticker.” Sometimes, it is evident; my kids are simply dealing with big emotions and need empathy and someone to coach them through what is going on. However, there are times where the issue goes beyond a bit of understanding. And that is when I go to my alternatives to timeout.
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Lauren says
I checked out the article and you have some great options! Right now time outs work well with my daughter so I am sticking with that! 😉
Savannah (@HowHesRaised) says
I LOVE the idea of unplugging! More often than not, my son is excessively cranky when he just wants some attention. I also really like making the punishment fit the crime, and this is something I need to keep in mind as he gets older. Thank you so much for sharing! <3
Kids Dentist Helper Shivaun says
Unplugging is good for keeping me focused. We have a calm down corner too, but it is in the bed where the dog sleeps. Once she is calm, we can do the coaching. Good list!