What should you do to prepare your child for a successful start to kindergarten? What should they know? Find all the info from a former principal & teacher.
My “big girl” is starting school next week.
We have gone to her school and met some of the teachers, the principal, and done a little tour. Despite being told multiple times we were just there to finalize paperwork, she insisted on packing her backpack, bringing a snack, and was disappointed when we left her school after a half hour.
While my sweet, eager little girl is only attending preschool for the first time, it got me thinking of how actual school isn’t that far off. Her planning, declarations to neighbourhood kids that “I’m going to a new school!” and requests to be at school before it starts has our whole family excited.
The person especially proud?
My recently retired, elementary school principal mom.
“The secretaries used to joke that I could sense a kindergarten registration from a mile away because I’d jump out of my office to greet them.”
Though our little girl is not starting elementary school yet (her preschool is in an elementary school), I wanted to ask my mom, who has nearly 40 years of experience, what she recommends parents do to make their child’s transition into kindergarten as smooth and successful as possible.
Here are important ‘dos and don’ts’ for a smooth and successful transition into kindergarten from a principal (and mom)!
What to do for A Successful Start To Kindergarten
In the last week or so leading up to the first day of school, DO establish and maintain a regular routine in your household.
School is a big change and predictability will help your child feel secure leading up to such a big milestone.
DO tour the school with your child and take pictures.
Once home, you can create a short story or simply refer back to them and explain which one is the classroom, point out where certain things are (i.e. the bathroom, the kitchen centre, the tables where they will eat their snack, the cloakroom, etc.).
DO instil in your child a sense of identity.
Their full name, age, who their mommy and daddy are, who their siblings are are all examples of things that they may be asked or may help them feel a sense of who they are when meeting so many new people at once.
When prepping your child for school, DO work with their strengths and interests and DON’T work on skills they aren’t interested in.
Specifically, if your child struggles with writing their name, leave it. It will come in time in the classroom. Research shows children’s rudimentary math skills are more advanced in the context of play, their vocabulary is richer, and their fine motor skills are more advanced.
So, if your child does not want to print her name but loves art, find fun ways to work on her fine motor skills by using play dough or crafting. But drop working on their name. If your child doesn’t have his numbers down but is eager to kick a ball, keep score as your play! Not only will focusing on a skill that isn’t going well frustrate you both, it also won’t be particularly effective.
The best way for young children to learn is in the context of play.
DO be honest about any concerns you have about your child’s health, developmental milestones, or learning. This helps both the school principal and your child’s teacher support your child as best they can.
It is natural to want to minimize your child’s struggles so that he can make the best impression. By being upfront, you are setting your child and the school up for success. If your child has any struggles, the school will work to ensure the best possible environment for child’s individualized needs and will minimize any guesswork.
Once school has started, DON’T linger too long before leaving and DON’T just drop in to say hi.
In the case of the former, you’re delaying the inevitable and also prolonging their anticipation of you leaving. In terms of popping in, it may seem like a nice idea. However, this could disrupt and remind your child of your absence.
DO volunteer when you can and become involved in the school community.
This builds up relationships in the school and generates a greater sense of community for both you and your child.
DO keep a regular and ongoing dialogue with the school principal and your child’s teacher.
This helps keep everyone on the same page and fosters feelings of connectedness and involvement.
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workingmommagic says
Such awesome tips here.. I still have an issue sticking around too long! I cant help it! ha!
Alana says
Lauren, there’s no chance I’d leave quickly even though I’ve been told I should ?
shilarya says
Thank you for your tips..I too have a kiddo who is about to start preschool
Alana says
That’s so exciting! Thanks so much for reading!
Char Johnson says
Don’t let yourself feel anxious or scared- kids pick up on that and can have a hard time. Send them in with confidence that they will have a great time and meet new friends.
Do encourage them to ask someone to play with them – – kids are so much happier as soon as they feel they a friend in kindergarten and lots of times they are too shy to ask and the other kids pair up all around them. Try for play dates to help them feel connected to someone at school.
Don’t wait until school to establish reading routines!
Can’t express this one enough! Read to and with your kids all the time starting from months old!
In k and the rest of their elementary years, they should read a book every night- try reading them their favorites until they start reading them back to you (memorized, wrong, all is good!) Or read a line and have them read it after you. Teach them small words they can recognize like “no” and pause and let them say predictable words to make them feel empowered and capable. Never let them feel like they are struggling- it’s ok to help them out! Confidence is key.
I could go on for days – sorry!
Kindergarten teacher and it’s back to school time!!
Alana says
These are AWESOME tips!!!!!!!
Alana says
I love every single word of what you wrote, Char!!! ❤️❤️❤️
Kirsten says
My girls are staring K in a week and one thing we have been doing is practicing eating lunch from lunch kits. They are so excited to use new lunch boxes plus I have time to talk to them about what is a snack, what is a lunch and how to pace so they eat in time given and not miss out because they are talking
kimlac says
That is AWESOME…I am a kindergarten teacher and I wish EVERY parent did that..it is sooooooo helpful
Alana says
Thank you so much for reading and for such an encouraging comment ❤️❤️❤️
Alana says
This is brilliant Kirsten!!! Thank you so much for sharing!!!
goodenufmommy says
This is right on the money! Your mom is awesome! I would also add DO teach them to put on their own shoes and zip their own jackets! The teacher will love you for it! 🙂
Alana says
This is incredibly smart! Thank you ❤️
twitchetts.com says
My rule of thumb is not to ask him if he is nervous or scared… Then he wonders if he should be. I just help get him pumped!
Alana says
That’s so smart, Susie! I think that’s a very contentious approach!
triciathegoodmama says
Oh I used to teach Kindergarten and I agree wholeheartedly with all of your tips. It’s so important to remember that parents and teachers are a team, so I love that last point. I also love the idea of taking pictures of the classroom beforehand to really get your child familiar with the space. Oh, this makes me miss teaching Kindergarten! It’s such a great age!
Alana says
It’s no surprise you taught kindergarten because it seems kindergarten typically attracts the best of the best ❤️ thank you so much for reading and for your thoughtful comment ❤️❤️
triciathegoodmama says
Oh that’s so sweet of you to say! Kindergarten is a lot of fun. I may go back once my kids are in school too.
Natasha says
Wow, what an awesome, comprehensive list! I don’t have kindergarteners yet, but I can use many of these for preschool!
Alana says
Thank you! And thanks to my mom for keeping me in the know 🙂 I’m using them for preschool too ?
Shelah says
This is brilliant, Alana. It is great advice for any parent dropping their child off at a new school.
dirtandnoise says
These are so great! We are starting kindergarten TOMORROW!!! Yikes. Still can’t believe it. We’re going to meet the teacher today and drop off stuff. I’m going to make sure and take pictures so we can talk about it when we get home. I also am going to reiterate the full name, mom and dad’s names, etc. Thank you so much to your Mom!
Alana says
I’m sooooo excited for you and my stomach did a little flip-flop for you too! Glad you appreciated these tips. My mom is a pro!
mommyinsports says
These are really great tips, especially a schedule and communication with the school. It’s so important to know what’s happening on a day to day basis!
Alana says
Totally! Thanks for reading and for your comment ❤️
Alyssa from The Sparkly Life says
my daughter is starting kindergarten next week (sniff, sniff!), so this case at the perfect time. thank you!
Alana says
My daughter is starting preschool and I feel the same!!! Thanks for reading and best of luck next week!
Joy says
That’s an interesting tip about not pushing things that your children are not already good at (or interested in). I hadn’t thought about that, because we always figured that we should work on our weakness. Thanks for the tip, appreciate the words!
Chanity says
These are great tips Alana! My little guy just started 2nd grade. Time can slow down at any moment… Really! lol!
Alana says
Oh my goodness. He’s such a big boy! You must be so proud, but man do they ever grow up quickly! Thanks for reading ❤️
The Trophy WifeStyle says
Hehehe my daughter isn’t in kindergarten get, but she’s going to all day preschool threw the school starting next week and omg! I’ve been trying to get her to eat her own lunch and to take off her own jacket etc… Such simple things, but to little kiddos omg, it is ridiculous how something so simple makes no sense to them lol
queenmommyjen says
Oh kindergarten! You are a very wise Mom. You have a pretty great list going here. I am fairly terrible at keeping up with the principal and need to do a better job on that. We smile and wave at drop off, but that probably isn’t cutting it….
smilingawayfoodallergies says
These are awesome! Thank you for sharing ?
Kimberly says
Thank you for the post! My little guy starts kindergarten on Thursday so this post showed up at just the right time!!
Alana says
That’s so exciting!!! Thanks so much for reading ❤️
John Mahoney says
We are looking for a good place to enroll our son so he can start his education. Thank you for talking about the importance of touring the school with your kids. I can see that this can help them reduce the stress of a new situation and make sure the school has the proper security and programs to accommodate your child.
Ivy Baker says
This is some really good information about a child’s first day of school. I liked that you pointed out that you shouldn’t linger too long when dropping off your kid. My nephew is about to go into kindergarten and my sister will probably linger too long when she drops him off on the first day.
Oscar O'Malley says
I really like that you mentioned that teaching a child things they may be asked by others is very important in improving self-identity at such a young age. My daughter is going to start kindergarten very soon, and I want her to be as prepared as possible. Thanks for the tips-I’ll be sure to work with her on a number of different things before she starts school!
Gerty Gift says
I liked what you said about touring the school with your kid. I have been trying to think about how I can properly prepare my daughter for school, since she’s usually really afraid to go places that she’s never been before. I think that this would help her to feel safe and comfortable as she goes into kindergarten.
Stephanie, One Caring Mom says
I love the idea of touring the school and taking pictures! I think this would be so helpful but honestly I wouldn’t have thought of doing that. Thank you!